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Separated parents should agree holiday plans well in advance to avoid conflict over parental rights

Family lawyer Deborah Johnson offers advice to separated parents planning to take their children abroad on how to avoid conflict and ensure the summer break is as much fun as it should be.

Children are meant to enjoy the holidays, as are parents. What we’re trying to avoid is the scenario where one announces to the children that they are going to Disneyland, but the other parent says no,” she says.

Deborah, who works as a mediator as well as a family lawyer at London law firm Hodge Jones & Allen, says she often sees separated parents clash when they experience school holidays, particularly for the first time. They may have quite happily worked out how the children spend time with their parents during the year, but then one parent books a holiday without realising, generally, they need permission from the other parent to take their children out of the jurisdiction.

The first step for separated parents – whether or not they were ever married – is to agree between themselves any plans well in advance of booking anything so that everyone knows where they stand and has full details of any proposal.

This also gives both parties the chance to work out the practicalities such as handing over passports and belongings and to ensure children, excited about a holiday, aren’t disappointed when plans are blocked. It also means the parent left at home is clear exactly how the holiday impacts their allotted time with the children and can work out how they will communicate with the children while they are away. This type of discussion should also be included in planned trips with other family members such as grandparents,” Deborah says.

If discussions break down or parents can’t agree, mediation is available to try to reach a written decision and prevent problems escalating and ending up in court. Courts tend to become involved in this kind of scenario when they are asked to provide permission for children to leave the jurisdiction because the other party objects, or to protect a child from the risk of abduction, which is a criminal offence.

Before the court gets involved, and unless it’s an emergency, the courts expect both parties to have attended MIAM (mediation information assessment meeting) and a judge will want to know details of any parental agreements and will ask for information such as proposed holiday dates, telephone numbers, addresses of holiday accommodation and the country involved.

Mostly, working out holiday arrangements is common sense and hopefully parents can agree amicably among themselves how the school holidays will work. But certain situations may require urgent legal advice and for orders to be put in place to provide a decision and ensure security.

If you have any concerns, contact a family lawyer for advice.


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Kerry Jack or Nicola Pearson at Black Letter Communications or

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Hodge Jones and Allen

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